This blog and video on managing overwhelm is as much for me as it is for other people. When you’re already at or over capacity, you need to be selective about what you can take on. Sometimes we need a reminder or visual representation of what we are doing before disaster sets in.
Do you suffer from Shiny Object Syndrome or an inability to say no?
Regularly I see clients who are feeling overwhelmed by all the to-do’s in their lives and businesses. Many suffer from Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS), and can’t help themselves. It may be the latest social media (Tik Tok, Reels, Clubhouse …) or it may be an opportunity you can’t say no to. Worse it can be something you really don’t want to do. But, you may struggle to say no.
Are you multi-passionate?
The trouble many of us face is like Marie Forleo calls it, we are ‘multi-passionate’. We love doing too many different things. We feel we have many callings. Each of these takes up our time, and eventually something has to give!
Video on managing overwhelm – be realistic and say no
So this short video can be played here or by clicking this link to view on YouTube.
Video transcript managing overwhelm – be realistic and say no
Hi there, I’m Jane Tweedy from FAQ Business Training, and I’m speaking to a lot of people at the moment about managing overwhelm.
Possibly why you’re getting overwhelmed [00:00:07]
They think things take less time than they actually do. They take on another thing when they know they’re already at capacity, but they take something else on. But what they’re not recognising, is that when you take something else on, something else has to give.
A glass as a metaphor for our capacity [00:00:21]
Let’s look at this example of this glass, okay. This is a glass. No special tricks here, just a glass. But what I’m going to do is I’m going to fill up the glass. And this glass is going to represent us and all the things we agree to. So we have work, we have family, we have friends, we have bills and things we’ve got to pay. We might have a part part-time job. We might have a side hustle. We’re trying to get off. Aww there’s a new marketing opportunity. Yay!
Making a mess when we overfill [00:00:52]
I haven’t done Pinterest. Wooo. I’ve got to do TikTok, and it’s all adding up. Now the thing is, we get towards the top and we’re right at the top and we go, okay we are at capacity. There is no more room here to fit things in. But what do we do? We be completely unrealistic and we go, sure, we can fit something extra in. So what do we do? We keep filling. But what happens is the glass runneth over. It makes a mess. It makes a mess everywhere.
Need to make change to stop feeling overwhelmed [00:01:25]
What happens, the glass does not grow, we need to be realistic about what we can achieve in our lives, and until we start being realistic about what we can achieve, our position is not going to change. We are going to continue to feel overwhelmed. We are going to continue to take on too much. So what I suggest you do is remember that glass, and think if my glass is full, what can I do to fit something more in?
Conscious decision what I choose to say no to [00:01:53]
To get it full I’ve got to take something out of the glass before I can add something more to it. So, what are you going to say no to if you’re going to say yes to that next opportunity? So always think of that. If you say yes to something when you’re already at capacity, it means you’re saying no to something else. So what is that no? Make a call, make it conscious, and don’t run over capacity because all we’re doing is making a mess.
Thank you for listening. Jane Tweedy from FAQ Business Training.